Becoming Invincible
The 3 Myths and the 4 Core Areas of Resilience
How can you become invincible?
How can you become so resilient that nothing ever breaks you?
During the past few years, I’ve been analyzing resilience because it’s something I’ve personally struggled with myself.
I am a highly sensitive person( HSP). And this means that I have a lot of creativity, art, empathy and connect well with people, but it also means that I’m very sensitive when I have setbacks and failures.
On top of this, I have quite a strong high achiever saboteur. I did a previous episode on the Nine Saboteurs. The High Achiever Saboteurs means that I am very dependent on success and accomplishments, and when I don’t get them, I really struggle with dealing with this.
All of this led me down the road of learning about resilience:
What really makes us resilient, invincible?
How can we use these tools, techniques, strategies, mindset to help us to bounce back every time we fall?
In this article, I’m going to break down three core myths when it comes to resilience, and then four core areas that can support you to become more resilient.
We’ll break it down into what you can do beforehand, continuously to help you build the resilient muscle, and also what you can do during extremely challenging and stressful times.
The Three Core myths
There are three core myths when it comes to resilience. We often believe that resilience means never falling, or doing everything on our own. Yet:
Resilience is not about never falling. It’s about being able to pick yourself back up quickly and smoothly.
Resilience does not mean never giving up. If something is not aligned in your life, sometimes it is good to quit and move away.
Resilience is not built alone. It’s about knowing when to ask for help and surrounding yourself with peers, coaches, friends, and family.
The Four Pillars Of Resilience
The four key areas are physical, mental, social, and emotional.
Physical means exercise and maybe hormetic stressors such as cold exposure, but really exercise. Every time you push through resistance physically, you become stronger. Someone who is very strong physically is more likely to be strong mentally because they cope with their own mind and resistance.
Mental resilience comes from constantly challenging yourself. Learn a new language or skill, try something new in your business, take piano lessons, read, have the hard conversation. Every time you push through “I can’t be bothered” or “this is hard,” you’re growing your muscle of perseverance.
Social resilience means connecting with peers and friends so you feel stronger and supported. It’s about belonging and nurturing relationships that make you feel grounded and comforted. We are stronger together than alone.
Emotional resilience is being able to cope with lower states of emotion and get yourself back to calm and grounded. It starts with accepting your emotions instead of suppressing them. You realize you are not your emotions and can let them pass without clinging to them.
The four pillars:
Physical: Exercise to build strength and mental toughness.
Mental: Continually challenge yourself with new skills, hobbies, and tasks.
Social: Nurture strong relationships and belonging for support.
Emotional: Accept and process emotions rather than suppressing them.
From Crisis To Courage
In a crisis, whether an argument, job loss, illness, or losing someone, you may feel unable to cope. The more you resist the situation, the more it persists.
The first step is moving from resistance to acceptance. This is challenging, which is why we train beforehand with the four pillars. Ask: What would help me to accept this right now?
The more you’ve practiced with small things, the easier it will be with big ones. Acceptance is 50% of the work and the hardest part. From there, you can take proactive steps.
If you act from resistance, results often come from anger or revenge. Acting from acceptance leads to healthier, more productive outcomes.
Key actions during crisis:
Shift from resistance to acceptance to reduce suffering.
Ask: “What would help me accept this right now?”
From acceptance, move into courage and then proactive steps.
Seek support when needed; connection is part of resilience.
Being invincible is not about never falling but getting back up every time. It’s choosing not to let anything beat you down forever. You may be down for a time, but you won’t let it be permanent. Train with small things so you’re prepared for the big ones.
Thank you for reading,
Enjoy the journey,
Katie
This article is based on a transcript from my podcast episode. To listen to the podcast episode, check out this link.